Ada Calhoun & T.J. Stiles in Conversation

about Calhoun's essay collection, Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give.

"This unflinchingly honest, astutely balanced probe of a most perplexing institution asks all the right questions. It sets up a conversation with the reader, who is challenged to reflect at each point, choosing between 'No, that's not me' and 'How did she know that?' Most of the time, she knows."--Phillip Lopate, author of The Art of the Personal Essay

Thursday, May 25, 2017 - 7:30pm

We hear plenty about whether or not to get married, but much less about what it takes to stay married. Cliches around marriage--eternal bliss, domestic harmony, soul mates--leave out the real stuff. After marriage you may still want to sleep with other people. Sometimes your partner will bore the hell out of you. And when stuck paying for your spouse's mistakes, you might miss being single.

In Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give, Ada Calhoun, acclaimed for her provocative essays in the New York Times Modern Love and Lives columns, presents an unflinching but also loving portrait of her own marriage, opening a long-overdue conversation about the institution as it truly is: not the happy ending of a love story or a relic doomed by high divorce rates, but the beginning of a challenging new chapter of which the first twenty years are the hardest.

Calhoun's funny, poignant personal essays explore the bedrooms of modern coupledom for a nuanced discussion of infidelity, existential anxiety, and the many other obstacles to staying together. Both realistic and openhearted, Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give offers a refreshing new way to think about marriage as a brave, tough, creative decision to stay with another person for the rest of your life. What a burden--Calhoun calls marriage--and what a gift.

Ada Calhoun has written for the New York Times, New York magazine, and the New York Post. Her book St. Marks Is Dead was named a New York Times Editors' Choice and a Boston Globe Best Book of the Year.

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$24.95
ISBN: 9780393254792
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Published: W. W. Norton & Company - May 16th, 2017

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